Parts, Self, & Connection: An IFS Retreat for Healing Your Relationships

Hilton Garden Inn Kauai Wailua Bay

3-5920 Kuhio Hwy, Kapaʻa, Hawaiʻi

This beautiful beachfront hotel sits next to the scenic Wailua River and offers a central location to explore the "Garden Isle" of Kauai.

Airport Information: The Hilton Garden Inn Kauai Wailua Bay is conveniently located just 5 miles from Lihue Airport (LIH). Please note: Airport shuttle service is not available. We recommend arranging a rental car, taxi, or rideshare or transportation to and from the hotel.

Your retreat experience begins on the evening of January 8th with a Welcome Reception, a time to settle in, connect with other participants, and prepare for the program ahead. The three-day program runs January 9–11, followed by checkout the morning of January 12, which includes a final shared breakfast.

January 8: 6:00–7:00 p.m. — Welcome Reception

January 9: 9:00 a.m.–12:00 p.m. & 2:00–5:00 p.m.

January 10: 9:00 a.m.–12:00 p.m. & 2:00–5:00 p.m.

January 11: 9:00 a.m.–12:00 p.m. & 2:00–5:00 p.m.

January 12: Breakfast and departure

Hotel Check-in is January 8th at 3:00pm and Check-out is January 12th at 11:00am 

Tuition & Accommodations:

Two-person partnership: $5,250*

*Tuition includes four nights of lodging at the Hilton Garden Inn Kauai Wailua Bay in Kapa'a, Hawaii,

Meals Included:

• Breakfast and lunch daily (including final breakfast on January 12)

• Dinner on your own to explore local dining options. Dinner is not included in tuition.

This schedule balances structured learning with spacious time for rest, reflection, and reconnection — inviting you to arrive fully and experience the retreat at your own pace.

Hilton Garden Inn Kauai Wailua Bay has two onsite restaurants open daily. Enjoy dining options at either Mamahune's retro-inspired tiki bar and restaurant located poolside and open 12pm-9pm or The Garden Grille offering a modern relaxed atmosphere open 6am-10pm. For more information on the venue's dining options, click here. 

We encourage you to explore the daily activities included with your accommodations. In addition to the retreat programming, the resort offers a variety of complimentary activities for all guests, including:

 

If you’re interested in any of these offerings, simply let the front desk know when you check in. They’ll be happy to assist with schedules and details.

This event has now reached full capacity. We anticipate a small number of cancellations prior to the start date.

If you would like to be notified should a space become available, please click here to join the Interest List.

Join us this January for an immersive retreat designed for intimate partners. To preserve the retreat’s intimate and experiential nature, registration is limited to 25 partnerships.

Many of us grow up believing that our partner(s) should take away our pain and make us feel whole. When that doesn’t happen, we may begin to doubt the relationship itself. We try to get our partner(s) to change, or we look to others — people, substances, or activities— to ease the pain. None of these strategies work for very long.

In truth, no partner can shield the pain and shame that parts of us carry. When we rely on our partner(s) to take away our pain, we often find ourselves feeling disconnected and dissatisfied. We can make our way back to each other by learning to care for the young, vulnerable parts of ourselves and helping them release their burdens.

When we do our own work to heal our wounded parts, we can offer our partner(s) a love that is courageous and unconditional—one that doesn’t depend on them fixing our hurts. This allows partners to step out of the impossible role of emotional caretaker and instead show up as steady, supportive companions.

The Internal Family Systems (IFS) model offers a powerful pathway to bring more Self-energy into your relationship, allowing everyone to feel more connected, resilient, and alive. When partners connect from Self, even charged conversations can become pathways to greater closeness and harmony.

During this immersive retreat, Richard Schwartz, PhD and Jeanne Catanzaro, PhD, will guide you and your partner(s) in cultivating this kind of courageous love. Through the IFS model, you will:

• Identify and get to know the parts of yourself that block intimacy.

• Learn to communicate from a place of clarity, compassion, calm, and confidence—qualities of the Self.

• Cultivate the safety needed to share your most vulnerable parts and deepen trust with one another.

Set in a spacious and restorative retreat environment, the program blends teaching, guided practices, and partner-based exercises with time for reflection and connection.

This retreat is designed for intimate partners attending together. We warmly welcome all partnerships—whether two-person or part of a polyamorous or other diverse constellation—including partners of any gender, sexual orientation, or relationship length.

The retreat is suitable for both therapists and non-therapists with a basic understanding of the IFS model. Please Note: This retreat offers an opportunity for your own personal reflection and connection. It is not a professional training and does not include guidance on leading or facilitating similar work for others.

Because this retreat is deeply immersive and experiential, participants must have a foundational understanding of the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model. This will support your ability to engage fully in the teachings and guided practices and explore your own inner parts—and those of your partner(s)—with safety, openness, and care.

A limited number of scholarships were available to help make this retreat more accessible. We are no longer accepting scholarship applications. If you submitted a scholarship application, we are in the process of contacting recipients. 

Cancellations received by December 1, 2025, will be refunded minus a $500 administrative fee. After this date, refunds are not available. We encourage you to review the full cancelation policy before registering. Thank you for your understanding and for helping us create a retreat environment that feels supportive for all participants.